Getting to “Yes”
- Help me understand why your inflexible area is so important to you.
- What are your core feelings, beliefs, or values about this issue?
- Help me understand your flexible areas.
- What do we agree about?
- What are our common goals?
- How might these goals be accomplished?
- How can we reach a temporary compromise?
- What feelings do we have in common?
How can I help to meet your core needs?
Our compromise that honors both our needs and dreams is:
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